Finding Grace in Flexibility

Showing Up When Things Fall Apart

Jonathan J Levine, Into the Yearning, Digital photo, 2021. Copyright © JJLevine. All rights reserved. https://www.instagram.com/magicwandmaker/

Attachment Leads to Suffering

Suffering is, by definition, fighting against reality. The author, speaker, and Buddhist teacher, Jack Kornfield states in his YouTube lecture, Letting Go, “Your suffering is directly related to how attached you are.” A teaching attributed to the Buddha states, very simply, “Expect nothing, accept everything.”

Freeing Ourselves from Expectations

The most important element that we’ve had to be flexible about has been our own expectations. When we have an idea about something we really want to do, we often have a picture of how it will look, how long it will take to traverse this path, and how it will feel. It is almost never exactly how we had imagined, even when we’re not in the midst of a global pandemic. But, if we’re stuck in the idea of having “it” be a certain way, fighting against the realities of life and of what is, we miss the opportunities that show themselves and the actual beauty that is right in front of us.

Letting the Light In

I’m often reminded, at times like this, of the Leonard Cohen lyrics, “There’s a crack, a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.” Obstacles and pain can often make our hearts softer, more compassionate, and the rawness can break us open to our authenticity. And that, my friends, can be a shortcut to the actual passionate life that we seek.

Psychologist, Host: Internet Show, Dr. Mara Karpel & Your Golden Years, Author: The Passionate Life: Creating Vitality & Joy at Any Age. www.DrMaraKarpel.com

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